Over the last couple of weeks have I received a lot of questions about, how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest a specific person. It’s a sensitive topic. When you reach to the point where you want to manifest someone specific, you have developed some sort of attachment to them. I don’t just talk about romantic relationships here; relationships can also be friendships, family members, acquaintance, co-workers, business partners, etc.
I will share 5 tips with you to help you get a harmonious relationship, and what you have to consider when it comes to manifesting a specific person.
#1 The Law of Free Will.
First and most important! You have to consider the Law of Free Will. The Law of Free Will is a Universal Law that goes hand in hand with the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Free Will states “You can’t interfere with a person’s free will”
You must respect the person’s free will, and if you truly love that person, you will. If you are trying to control or manipulate someone into liking you, you’re playing with fire, and you would be the one who gets hurt. It is not love to force someone into liking you, nor using manifestations techniques to manifest that relationship. That is an act of fear.
Ask yourself; would you like to be in a relationship with someone who forced or controlled you into liking them? Heck no! Respect the person, and don’t try to force or control anything.
#2 Why That Person?
Why do you feel attracted to that person? What is it about that person, that makes you want to have a relationship with them? Why them?
Other people are a mirror that reflects something inside of ourselves. So what we are seeking in others is very often something we seek in ourselves. No matter how great and wonderful that other person is, no one can fulfill you except yourself. You have the key to your happiness, not the other person.
When you are working on embracing those part of yourself that you feel attracted to by the other person (confidence, success, joy in life, happiness, humor, spirituality, etc.), then you will start reaching a vibrational match and thereby could manifest a person like that into your life.
#3 Detached From the Outcome.
We have to take our blinder off and get rid of our tunnel vision. No matter how much we want something or someone, we only have a limited perspective. No crystal ball, tarot card reading, numerological forecast or astrological forecast can predict if someone is the right person for you, nor if you would be happy with that specific person in the long run. You have to let go and let the Universe do her thing.
When you are too attached to the outcome, you enter a state of controlling behavior and getting impatience. The longer it takes to manifest, the more confusing and painful it gets. That creates an energy of fear – and fear will always repeal love.
Remember, your mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. When you are obsessing about something, you can manipulate your own mind to believe its true, and when the real world doesn’t reflect that reality back, then it really gets painful.
I love this quote from A Course in Miracles:
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety!”
How beautiful is that?
Now, what is the outcome? Be honest with yourself here! Is it that specific person OR is it a loving and harmonious relationship with respect and honesty?
#4 Define Your Desire in a Relationship.
Without putting a face on it;
- What do you want in the relationship you are seeking?
- What is the purpose behind it? (Love, friendship, career, sex, etc.)
- How do you want to feel in the relationship?
You must be careful that you don’t fall in love with the fantasy or the potential of another person, but that you see them for who they really are.
I will recommend that you watch this video:
#5 Take one step at the time.
If this person is someone you don’t really know, or they don’t really know you, then you have to take it slowly. Start by learning to know each other – the most successful relationships start as friendships. I mean, who doesn’t want to have a love relationship or joint venture with one’s best friend?
Be okay with the person is dating someone else or hanging out with others than you. No jealousy and no control. No expectations, no nothing. Just an open curiosity and interest in getting to know each other. Let time and the Universe guide the relationship, one step at the time. Also, be okay with the scenario of the person doesn’t want to have a relationship or friendship with you. Remember, always respect their free will, and don’t take it personally!
If the person is someone you already know, and they know you, then start where you are right now. You’ve already a connection, so take from there. Again one step at the time, and no force. Consider the relationship you already have; Is it possible to talk about something on a deeper level? Or something that is business related if you want a joint venture with that person? How can you start that conversation in a comfortable way for both of you? Would you be okay with just staying friends?
If you aren’t okay with seeing your specific person dating or hanging out with others, then it’s maybe time to take some time apart. Again, your specific person has his/her own free will, and you have no right to interfere with that. Set yourself and your specific person free from your expectations and respect each other’s choices. If it meant to be, it would happen – if not, you must be okay with that outcome too.